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� Flirting – behaviors that people use to signal attraction to one another
� Eye-lock
¡ One of the classic staples of flirting is locking eyes
¢ Gets other’s attention and shows your desire
¡ Marked by an unflinching gaze, with no over smiling or talking
� In studies, opposite-sex pairs told to silently look into each other’s eyes
¡ E.g., Mock ESP study
� When participants gazed at each other for 2 minutes (compared to control group)…
¡ They rated their partner as more attractive
¡ They expressed greater desire to date them
� When people look into another person’s eyes, feel-good neurotrans-mitters are released
¡ Dopamine¢ Drives feeling of desire,
attraction and motivation
¡ Oxytocin¢ Drives feeling of
emotional bonding and desire to protect
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� Flirting – behaviors that people use to signal attraction to one another
� How do woman and men flirt differently?
¡ Left side of class: How do women flirt?
¡ Right side of class: How do men flirt?
� Psychologists have carefully recorded flirting behavior in naturalistic settings (bars, dates)
¡ Same methods used to study mating in apes
� How do women flirt?
¡ Starts with mutual gazing¢ Often with head tilted
slightly downward
¡ Women then show off their hair¢ Tossing head side-to-side,
brushing it, twirling it
¡ As time goes on, self- and other-touching increases¢ Touching shoulders/ knees,
“accidentally” brushing up against the other person
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� How do men flirt?¡ Men glance at women to see if any reciprocate
their gaze¢ Known as a “prowl scan”
� How do men flirt?¡ After mutual gazing is
established, men change their behavior to appear more dominant¢ Spreading out arms/legs
to appear bigger
¢ Tilting head upward
¢ Physically dominating other men� E.g., slapping shoulders,
putting arm on the back of another guy’s chair
� How do men flirt?¡ All the while, continually checking to see if the
desired partner is paying attention¢ Men average 10 mutual glances before approaching
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Hi there� How do apes flirt?
¡ Starts with prowl scan
¡ Lots of mutual eye gazing before approach
¡ Female assumes a demure posture
¢ Head tilted down
¡ Male assumes large, dominant posture
¢ Harms and legs spread wide
� How do apes flirt?
¡ Starts with prowl scan
¢ Lots of mutual eye gazing before approach
¡ Female assumes a demure posture
¢ Head tilted down
¡ Male assumes large, dominant posture
¢ Harms and legs spread wide
Hi there
� How do apes flirt?
¡ Male then initiate rough play and dominate other males
¢ All the while checking to see if female is looking
¡ Once contact is made, male may initiate subtle, “accidental” contact
¢ To see if female reciprocates
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� Most ape coupling behavior is similar to our own